AGAIN - COMPETENCE TRUMPS INTENT

Blessings Darlings!

I know that I keep harping on this fact - but your 'intent' doesn't mean a dang thing if you are too incompetent to formulate a working plan to pull it off. In fact, it is likely to totally backfire on you.
Last night I watched another prime example on why magical or mundane 'intent' is always - ALWAYS - trumped by magical or mundane COMPETENCE.

It was especially entertaining since it was aimed at me.

Someone I had been "energetically disagreeing with" in one group followed me to another group, and stated in her first post in the second group that her intent was to get me booted from it. Now, that was a GREAT statement of intent. Clear and measurable. Props for that statement of intent.

She then proceeded to make a fool of herself in the second group, repeatedly violating the rules of that group, and pissing off one of the admins. Thus she got booted.

The thing about measurable intent is that it also makes it easy to measure failure. In a very short time, she was booted by the admins, rather than me being booted by the admins. Her white knight, who had been stirring shit, was also booted - by a different admin (blocking admins in that group is a bootable action, and she blocked him.)

She was incompetent in her actions. Accusing me of doing something that was not against the rules off either the FB group or of FB is NOT going to work at getting someone booted. Or, at least so far, getting me even 'suspended' from FB (OF COURSE it helps that I don't fit the demographics of folks that FB tends to suspend. I have a pretty high level of privilege).

Let me repeat the lesson: COMPETENCE TRUMPS INTENT. Every day of every week.

Frondly, Fern

Light .... and shadow

Question on a Pagan group:

What is it with 'love and light' and 'Wiccan brothers and sisters'??????????

Why???

Why is such fluffy familiarity okay? And, without checking if the recipient even wants bloody 'love and light' and 'blessed be sister'??????

One reply (paraphrased and shortened): .I say those to people to express kind intent, to pass along the pure gentleness of my heart & soul...To express the truly sweet person I am, how I treat everyone from my friends to strangers. keep in mind that there are those of us out there who are REAL empaths, who are genuinely caring souls with true intentions.

Well.  I had to respond, because I am me.

First ... I'm still having trouble getting my head around "I'm an empath (but I can't understand that my words could be irritating anyone),"  

to get back to Liz's original question - why do folks always pushing light and love/blessed be

1 - not give a fig if the person WANTS that?

2 - not care if the person can HANDLE that?

3 - not VALUE the dark? Or the power of the lone path?

4 - Not respect that others have different boundries?

Look - for years I had stomach problems. My well-meaning husband always gave me milk 'to help settle my stomach'. Turned out I had lactose intolerance!  To put it mildly - my husband's 'cure' only made the problem worse.

 Pouring what may work for ONE person on everyone is NOT a good idea, NOT good magic, NOT good spirituality in my never humble opinion.

I have said this before, and I will say it again - intent isn't worth squat when you don't actually look at what you do DOES.  My husband TOTALLY meant to help me. His action HURT me.   

Addenum

The Empath responded: It's sweet that you have a well-meaning husband...Yet, irresponsible of you to not take your health seriously and take matters into your own hands to see a doctor. To me, that is someone not listening to their body - especially if you let it go on for years.


Baby girl didn't answer my questions .... and of course I HAD been to doctors.  Repeatedly. Because then I had good insurance.  But apparently if I did NOT have insurance and could NOT afford a doctor .... that is being 'irresponsible'.  Because the poor are irresponsible, I suppose.  

And I'm sure she still thinks she said nothing anyone can object to.  And she still thinks she's an empath.